Newsletter - 17 December 2023
PARISH NEWS
Parish Evening of Reconciliation – Becoming Friends Again
The root meaning of the word reconcile is “to become friends again.” More than a lovely thought, reconciliation is essential to maintaining good relations with others. Relationships are easily strained by what we say and do. It is a great joy to know that damaged friendships can be restored and strengthened.
The parish evening of reconciliation offers several ways to restore our friendship with God and with one another.
Sit silently before the cross to let the Lord show where reconciliation is needed.
See a priest for the sacrament of reconciliation.
Write a letter to God or a person to ask forgiveness for things that you have said or done that have strained your relationship (this can be to a person living or dead).
This year another way will be proposed. Our parish is a family and like any family, our relationships can suffer from words spoken or deeds done. But just as our word and deeds can damage our relationships, so too can our words and deeds heal and deepen our friendships. Two things are especially important:
To say “thank you” — words of appreciation and gratitude for what another has done for you or for the parish community — e.g.
— Thank you for your kind words and prayers when I was going through a hard time.
Thank you for all you do in the parish.
To say “sorry” - for something that I have said or done that I regret or may have caused sorrow for another — e.g.
Sorry for speaking so harshly to you.
I apologise for not coming to help as I said I would.
If you wish to say “thank you” or “sorry” to someone during the reconciliation evening, simply tap them on the shoulder and ask to speak to them. Then go to a quiet place where you can speak privately (e.g. library, large hall, corridor). Say briefly and directly what is on your heart. Be specific; e.g. thank you for…, I am sorry for…
If someone asks to speak with you, remember it is because they want to say something that is often neglected in everyday conversation - words that seek to renew and strengthen your friendship. It helps if you can respond to what you hear with gratitude or to accept the apology that has been offered. Perhaps you might even want to say “sorry” for something you have said or done.
It is good to finish by offering words of support and encouragement to each other.
Deacon Ted Wood ccn
Focus of the Week
Service of Reconciliation
Tuesday 19 December – 7.30-9:30pm
An opportunity to reconcile with God and with each other.
In order to prepare ourselves for Christmas all are invited to a Service of Reconciliation with an opportunity for personal Confession and writing of letters or prayers which will be offered at Mass.
Children’s Nativity Drama
Children of the parish are invited to sign up to participate in our Nativity play which will take place at the 4pm Mass on Christmas Eve.
A rehearsal will be held Saturday 23 December 4-5:30pm and again at 3pm on the 24 December.
Please register by emailing Caterina, with children’s name, age, and your phone number: cockfosterspa@rcdow.org.uk.